"You can talk to me..."

[Yakko Red]

Everyone has issues in their lives... and people can somtimes tell that under the surface there is a lot going on.

That's when people decided to be a helpful ear and say "You can always talk to me..." I want to point out that it's very sincere that people offer that up, but at the same time I also think "are you fucking kidding me?"

When someone says that to me, I appreciate it, I really do. To be honest though, how can you reveal what's going on behind the eyes you view the world with to someone that doesn't know you that well?

Personally, i can't talk to anyone that doesn't know my past and my present. If I'm going to divulge about what is bothering me or has me down, I'm basically revealing cracks in my walls and showing vulnerability. Either that or I'm revealing a part of me or a part of my past that I don't want to be very public knowledge That's something you can't trust any Joe Schmo with in my opinion....

If I'm going to talk to someone, they need to know all the aspects of my life, at least the current ones. (the past ones are on a need to know basis)

I catch myself being hypocritical because I have offered the same to others I barely know, but also I feel it's something you ask once, asking twice is pushing it. I also don't tell many people they can talk to me, because I honestly couldn't give a fuck about you if you're not one of my friends. (acquaintances are not friends... people that just say hi to me at a club are just acquaintances... keep that in mind)

Thoughts?

(my attempt to bring a decent thread to this board)

[badkitty3804]

I see this a lot.

It's kind of like when someone says "Hi, How ya doing?" and then look at you like you're nuts because you tell them.

It's simply a 'sentiment'. :shrug:

[Yakko Red]

i don't have time for superficiality myself, i don't consider what i'm speaking about above as that though, but i definitely pick up what you're putting down.

[SCHLiTZ]

Originally posted by Yakko Red


If I'm going to talk to someone, they need to know all the aspects of my life, at least the current ones. (the past ones are on a need to know basis)

This is why I will never go to a shrink... ever.

[A.J. Inx]

Just because we're talking, don't think we're friends...

I get this a lot, too. You find it everywhere... from the bar and the club to work...or even at home with a brother/sister/parent/legal gaurdian... It's been my experience that people REALLY don't give a fuck, but they want to look like they do. They're nice, and tell you if you need somethin', they'll be there... but when push comes to shove, they're always the first to run away or simply not be there. Still, however, because they offered you this useless peice of sentiment, they expect -you- to listen to all their lil whimpy, whiney, emo-depresso complaints like you're a priest and their some kind of confessor...and you're going to take away all their sins.

Bull Shit.

My .02

[Shawn_E]

Not really, even though we are all different, the common denominator is that we are all humans and pretty much have gone through the same things. Granted it wasn't from that person' point of view that they experienced what you are going through, but it doesn't mean they can't relate to give you insight.

Not to mention some are just that empathatic they can understand your pains, I am one of those types who say you can talk to me b/c I truly will understand.

[tranKwilized]

I believe that most of the time when someone says, "You can talk to me," they are not sincere. Especially people you barely know. It's just a courtousy ---- unless it's a real freind of course.

Think about it.. I'd say about 9 - 10 times when you tell someone "I'm here if you need me," or something along those lines, that the person in question is going to thank you and not discuss the issue. So there is a high probability that when you offer support, the other person will not accept it. Makes it a lot easier to make yourself look good and not have to follow through with the offer at the same time.

Just my opinion.

[bkidz]

As referenced above, that is the primary reason I stay out of particular forums. Unless a thread has been hijacked and buffoonery abounds, then I'm so there.

Also, I have divulged certain aspects of my life in particular forums in order to relate to others, but I am certain that the majority of people on the board don't pay attention or don't care. Oh Well. . .

[Milkman John]

first, you need a drink...

second....atleast people are attempting to listen....what i find worse than trying to talk to someone who doesn't know jack about me(which is alot of people), is when i can't find anyone to listen.........

i dunno...can't really be picky with such things...

then again, do you feel like they actually mean it,or are just trying to be nice.....

[Mandaba]

i'm sincere when i ask "how are you" "what's up" "anything i can do to help?" "wanna talk about it?" i wouldnt ask if i didnt mean it.

[A.J. Inx]

Shrinks are full of a lot of B.S., too... Some are good, and if you've been going to a particularly good doctor for an extended amount of time, they can usually asses the problem and offer some helpful advice... but that's about it...

And at between $100 - $200 a visit, that's some fuckin' expensive advice....

[tranKwilized]

Originally posted by A.J. Inx
And at between $100 - $200 a visit, that's some fuckin' expensive advice....

Yes, but it's "educated" advice :)

[Shawn_E]

Who else are going to pay for their porsche 911?

[SCHLiTZ]

Originally posted by A.J. Inx
they can usually asses the problem

that's assess.... you put the em-pahsis on the wrong sy-lab-el....

[bkidz]

Not me :noway: