Simon
2004-03-10, 11:03 AM
Barefoot Doctor: "Firstly, recognise that there's a fine but very clear distinction between being judgmental (meaning to judge somebody negatively) and being discerning.
For example, you might discern negative character traits in someone else which cause you discomfort, prompting you to adjust your relationship accordingly, perhaps by distancing yourself from them or disengaging to some extent. But you should do this, with the full realisation that what you're seeing in the other person is just a mirror reflecting traits you don't like and refuse to accept in yourself.
You won't necessarily be aware of these traits in yourself because by refusing to accept them, you split them off forcing them underground into your unconscious.
By understanding this hall-of-mirrors nature of reality, you'll find you stop judging others and thereby diminishing and limiting them in your eyes, because you'll understand that all you're doing is diminishing and limiting yourself. After a period of practicing this awareness, you'll notice that you actually become physically uncomfortable when slipping into judgmental mode and you'll be able to shrug it off at will.
Essentially being judgmental arises from being arrogant. Strive to be always humble and compassionate and accept that everyone on the planet, including you, is doing the very best they can according to their current state of personal evolution."
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For example, you might discern negative character traits in someone else which cause you discomfort, prompting you to adjust your relationship accordingly, perhaps by distancing yourself from them or disengaging to some extent. But you should do this, with the full realisation that what you're seeing in the other person is just a mirror reflecting traits you don't like and refuse to accept in yourself.
You won't necessarily be aware of these traits in yourself because by refusing to accept them, you split them off forcing them underground into your unconscious.
By understanding this hall-of-mirrors nature of reality, you'll find you stop judging others and thereby diminishing and limiting them in your eyes, because you'll understand that all you're doing is diminishing and limiting yourself. After a period of practicing this awareness, you'll notice that you actually become physically uncomfortable when slipping into judgmental mode and you'll be able to shrug it off at will.
Essentially being judgmental arises from being arrogant. Strive to be always humble and compassionate and accept that everyone on the planet, including you, is doing the very best they can according to their current state of personal evolution."
http://www.barefootdoctorworld.com