Ever notice?

[Synthetikid]

When a couple is dating for a long time and they break up, one of them just drops out of the scene?

[tranKwilized]

I've been in that situation..

[iminxtc]

That shit sucks

[Synthetikid]

i know, it's great when your ex just stops coming out- you dont have to worry about looking at them anymore.

[madeofwires]

when me and my ex broke up he stopped going out. but it wasnt only because we broke up, there were a lot of other reasons too. its kinda weird because he is one of the ppl that introduced me to the scene, and now it's like i go out all the time and he doesn't.

[the sex molesters]

my ex doesn't really go out anymore... but then again one of the reasons she and i stopped getting along is because she didn't want to go out anymore even before we broke up. not like i really care at this point but whatever....

[iminxtc]

what if your the one who doesnt go out and has to make new friends.

[the sex molesters]

it wouldn't happen with me. i'm too stubborn.

[iminxtc]

it happened to me when i was 16. it will not happen again

[Jungleluv09]

Yes and No! I've seen people break up then go their seperarate ways in the scene. It all depends if one of the two were "followers" or people who don't do anything unless someone does it first. I am not one of them, and I can name a couple people on this board but I'll keep my mouth shut! :afterbuzz:

[iminxtc]

goodtimes:D

[EurotrashEve]

Yeah, it sucked b/c we both danced for club one and had to share the catwalk dancing...it was a huge competition since we both were attention whores.
But it's cool now b/c he's too"grown up" for " raves" and he doesn't go out.

[Yakko Red]

social issues like this annoy me. I would never drop out of a scene because of anyone, instead I just keep my mouth shut and go on about my buisness.

That's my advice for everyone.

[Wickity]

:werd:

[Yakko Red]

swallow some pride
let the negativity ride

[SiK BuG]

yeah I don't see one of my ex's out anymore, which is a good thing.

[housecat]

I'm friends with all but one of my ex's and like it that way. I refuse to do anything differently and think no one should either. Dropping out the "scene" to avoid an ex is :lame:

[Mokey]

when I was in japan my ex cheated on me, and then dumped me (yay). He tried to tell me I couldnt go out to the clubs there, because it made him feel uncomfortable. After he said this I smacked the shit out of him, then made sure I went out every weekend (even if I didnt feel like it) I had the best time of my life!

[housecat]

ROFL! One thing noone should ever do is tell me I "can't" do something because you can bet your ass I WILL.

Hungover Gwen?

[Mokey]

Amazingly no, I had a few glasses of water before I went to bed. I did finish that third martini though.

[HI-NRG]

i dropped out of the scene for about a year, not because of an ex but anyway i didnt see her for a year i only heard about what she was doin from mutual friends, then my second time back to the club i see her at cubik, (keep in mind i still love this gurl) she runs up to me and kisses me, for that brief second i felt whole again only to step back and be totally crushed, to see that she was pregnant. now that made me want to just drop out and die, i left early that night i was only there for an hour but i was devestated, i went home and drank myself to sleep.

[Jungleluv09]

Originally posted by EurotrashEve
Yeah, it sucked b/c we both danced for club one and had to share the catwalk dancing...it was a huge competition since we both were attention whores.
But it's cool now b/c he's too"grown up" for " raves" and he doesn't go out.


I'm wondering how one can be too grown up for raves? I saw people with gray hair at RITM!

[Julierose]

Originally posted by dj-obe1
i dropped out of the scene for about a year, not because of an ex but anyway i didnt see her for a year i only heard about what she was doin from mutual friends, then my second time back to the club i see her at cubik, (keep in mind i still love this gurl) she runs up to me and kisses me, for that brief second i felt whole again only to step back and be totally crushed, to see that she was pregnant. now that made me want to just drop out and die, i left early that night i was only there for an hour but i was devestated, i went home and drank myself to sleep.

:whoa: dude totally harsh..:sok:

[Alexis]

Swallowing pride, I don't do.
Coping, I'm not good at
Running from Ex's is the bottom rung. You won't catch me doing that either.
Civility, is not my bag.

All of the above, are reasons I don't date boys in "the scene"

:wave:

[Synthetikid]

amen...

[elad]

theyre prolly gay anyways...

[Jungleluv09]

Originally posted by WanderingStarz
Swallowing pride, I don't do.
Coping, I'm not good at
Running from Ex's is the bottom rung. You won't catch me doing that either.
Civility, is not my bag.

All of the above, are reasons I don't date boys in "the scene"

:wave:


Hi, my name is Christopher...

[Jungleluv09]

I like girls who know what they want... :affection:

[Alexis]

Reference: "I just want bang bang bang" video.



:menthol:

[Jungleluv09]

:haha: :werd:

[Alexis]

boys zap my creative energy

:ANden:

[Synthetikid]

zap bad or zap good?

[Jungleluv09]

No one can do so without your explicit permission first...

[Alexis]

well, I'm saying r e l a t i o n s h i p s Zap the energy

Like, I'd be painting or making music...but instead I gotta hang out with "the man"

zap like that.

:ANden: does not take away from the creativity, by any means.

[Jungleluv09]

Exactly, I meant that you have to let him zap your energy. He can't take it from you with out your permission... You could still be painting or making music, you don't have to go chill with the man. The key is setting limits and sticking to them. I found that people stay together longer that way...

[Alexis]

I am bad at setting limits.

I tend to have an all or nothing mentality

:thumbsdown:

[the sex molesters]

or find a guy who likes to do art and music too. :shrug:

[EurotrashEve]

I don't let ex bf's bother me when we are out at clubs + I am friends w/ most of them. the ones I don't like I'll atleast adknowledge their presence but, not avoid them like the black plague... I won't watch my actions either and I will go on acting as I usually do and enjoy my night.

[Alexis]

Originally posted by djinergy
or find a guy who likes to do art and music too. :shrug:

arty boys are flaky and pretentious in my experience.

:menthol:

[the sex molesters]

not all of us.....

[Wickity]

:haha:

Oh, I'm just waiting for it...

:wickity:

[the sex molesters]

oh that wasn't a pickup line.... really, alexis, you're tall... tall women frighten me.

[Alexis]

You are not the first I have frightened.

:D

[Mandaba]

but alexis is deeeeeeeeeead sexah! and i was pretty envious of her height at rabbit in the moon when super tall guys were standing infront of me. i even told lauren "man i am sure jealous of alexis's height right now" i think she nodded in agreement.

[EurotrashEve]

the emo artsy boys/musicians are really flakey from my experience at MICA.
I'd rather date a person opposite of who I am .. I tried to date another fashion design student..we ended up clashing b/c of differences and always trying to compete against each other .it was just not a good idea at all.

[the sex molesters]

i'm not a flake. on the other hand i'm not the definition of "artsy" either. i dj, i produce, and i'm really good with graphic arts.... but i'm not an art school fag, either....

[Alexis]

Originally posted by FavoriteMistake
but alexis is deeeeeeeeeead sexah! and i was pretty envious of her height at rabbit in the moon when super tall guys were standing infront of me. i even told lauren "man i am sure jealous of alexis's height right now" i think she nodded in agreement.


Hehehehe, Yeah, I was in the middle of the crowd and I could see over everyone else :hifive: That's the only benefit, really.
Scaring small children and having tall boys hate on you all the time is teh suck.
I was also a target for thrown objects on Friday.
3rd floor+ Can of red bull almost full+alexis' neck=ouch
I was injured a few other times, but that hurt the worst

:glcaroline:

[Bunny]

I don't know if my ex is or isn't still hanging out in the scene. He told me that I better not go because he didn't want to have any trouble. The only thing I have to say to him is GROW UP, this isn't high school. I am not going to stop doing what I like to do just because of him... And he can go ahead and spread rumors about me. If the people I thought were my friends want to believe his lies then they weren't my friends to begin with. I'll find new friends.

[badkitty3804]

I run into 3 ex's almost every friday at Cubik. :shrug:

[EurotrashEve]

It shouldn't matter if he's in the scene still or not. Threats are idle and meaningless. He has a life, you have a life so have fun don't watch your actions and don't give a fuck what he thinks or says ..go have fun.who gives a fuck if he's there. Rumors don't last, they die quicker than started. and if all else fails keep a cheap drink in hand to throw in his face and a martini in another..keep your cool, keep a straight face ..throw it..then walk away like a non-phased diva bitch .(don't do this unless he's making an ass of you though).

[Muramasa]

Interesting observation... it does seem like a rather unusual coincidence. Most of my exes DO seem to drop completely out of any interest in EDM as a whole after we break up. It kind of sucks, I usually feel like they never had much of an interest in the first place and were just pretending to make me happy. That again, sucks, because I wouldn't want someone to conform to what I like, I'd rather kind of meet in the middle and do what THEY want to do half the time.
:yap:

But yeah... it's strange.:shrug:

[DJ40]

Every now and again I run into my ex here and there. But its cool since I like to know that shes doing alright. Then again, some times she can be pretty ignorant as well. Its all good!!:fett:

[korbendallas]

Originally posted by Synthetikid
When a couple is dating for a long time and they break up, one of them just drops out of the scene?

um not in my case.

[A.J.]

they come or they don't

as long as your both having fun, you don't really need to acknowlege there precence if you don't want to, simple

both of sides are at the club to have fun, so why not just let them have fun and they'll let you have fun, and then it won't matter

[korbendallas]

good point....but I'm going to keep quiet.

[Anti-DieselKitty]

Originally posted by tigerjunglist
That again, sucks, because I wouldn't want someone to conform to what I like, I'd rather kind of meet in the middle and do what THEY want to do half the time.
:yap:

What if they wanted to make bagels?

[korbendallas]

depends on what kind. :D

[Anti-DieselKitty]

Any kind....


Only Charly doesn't like bagels.

[A.J.]

Originally posted by korbendallas
good point....but I'm going to keep quiet.



:afterbuzz: smart man, it took me a long time to learn how to do that :D

[housecat]

Silence is golden.

[Muramasa]

Originally posted by Anti-DieselKitty


What if they wanted to make bagels?

Oh, I can make an awesome bagel, I'd just never eat it.:D

I could make bagels with someone all day long... then again... I couldn't be with someone that just wanted to sit around and eat bagels all day, CATE.:shady:

[Anti-DieselKitty]

Neither could I, but you are so destined to marry a nice jewish girl from NY and you will eat bagels and lox for the rest of your life. :wink:

[Muramasa]

And monkeys will fly out of my ass.
:D

[Anti-DieselKitty]

Well now it's definitely going to happen.

*yells at cloud*

[Muramasa]

*shakes fist*

[Anti-DieselKitty]

:D

[Milkman John]

Originally posted by Synthetikid
When a couple is dating for a long time and they break up, one of them just drops out of the scene?


yup, and nope

my ex and i run around the same party molesting the same girls

'cept she actually gets their phone #'s

[flasherred]

maybe people drop out because thier now ex was thier only ride to any raves...i know this to b the case for a few people

[DeliriumDneRite]

I'm a big advocate for not dating inside the scene. It just turns bad. And if you or your partner is a roller...forget it. Worst idea possible. I prefer to date guys who's response to hearing the music I listen to is, "How in the hell do you dance to that?"

[DeAtHmOnGeR bEaR]

Originally posted by madeofwires
when me and my ex broke up he stopped going out. but it wasnt only because we broke up, there were a lot of other reasons too. its kinda weird because he is one of the ppl that introduced me to the scene, and now it's like i go out all the time and he doesn't.

My ex is exactly like that. He totally was one of the peeps to get me hardcore into the scene.
What makes this really funny was that before we broke up, he always made fun of the ex before that, saying she wasn't "a real party kid" or something like that cause she let a breakup stop her from going out.
Hehehe..... stupid boys.
:delirious:

[Jungleluv09]

Originally posted by Funshine

Hehehe..... stupid boys.
:delirious:


:shady:

[Bunny]

Originally posted by Funshine


My ex is exactly like that. He totally was one of the peeps to get me hardcore into the scene.
What makes this really funny was that before we broke up, he always made fun of the ex before that, saying she wasn't "a real party kid" or something like that cause she let a breakup stop her from going out.
Hehehe..... stupid boys.
:delirious:

That was my situation too, my ex got me into the scene (it took him awhile). But once I was in it I loved it. I don't see him around at least not recently.

[DeAtHmOnGeR bEaR]

Sometimes my ex comes out, but it's been a while since I've seen him. Which is probably fine. We've got a lot of similar friends, but it still feels like he's trying to avoid me when his new girlfriend is around :gotme:

Crazyness! All.. :yes: Everyone should just go out and dance, know?

[BestBoardHooker]

it can go either way really...I mean, it all depends on how messy the breakup was. It's sad when it takes a turn for the worse but hey, that's life.

[Chaneyrc]

ive done the whole drop out of the scene thing before but for some reason i realized that it want worth it and actually me andmy ex became really good party buddies if nothing else. we have a blast together even thoug we are aware that nothing would work between us.... just my opinion...

[Valencia Styles]

that's really gay when people do that. there's a lot of other people out and about than your ex-significant other. go out to see them and spend time with the other people who give a shit about you.

[brkbt junglegrl]

i think its pretty lame that ppl stop going out just to avoid runnin into an ex. I remember one nite at Buzz..I ran into 2 ex's and it was a bit awkward..but hey..shit happens. Thats just one of the things u gotta deal with if u date within the scene.....

[Mandaba]

i know ill run into my most recent ex at cubik all the time now, i dont really care. we didnt end on sour terms or anything.

[badkitty3804]

I think my record was 4 ex's in the same club in one night....:shrug:

I need to date guys that are into like, knitting or something.

[DeAtHmOnGeR bEaR]

Show me an ex and I'll teach him how :yes:

[badkitty3804]

no, no, no....I need to date hot guys that just knit, nothing else...that way I know I'll never run into them at the club. :D

[LexxLuther]

Originally posted by badkitty3804
no, no, no....I need to date hot guys that just knit, nothing else...that way I know I'll never run into them at the club. :D


:haha:

[Jungleluv09]

Whats so bad about running into ex's? :shrug: If anything I'll just show them I still know how to have a good time. If they start shit, well thats why I love going to such a gigantic club. :kapluto:

[Jungleluv09]

Originally posted by badkitty3804
no, no, no....I need to date hot guys that just knit, nothing else...that way I know I'll never run into them at the club. :D


good luck finding an attractive guy that just knits... Or with any other good qualities at that...

[badkitty3804]

You got beef with knitting? :shady:

**and no, I don't mind running into ex's...it's just when I run into at least 3 on any given night at Cubik, it starts to suck**

[DeAtHmOnGeR bEaR]

Originally posted by Jungleluv09
good luck finding an attractive guy that just knits... Or with any other good qualities at that...

Hey! Attractive guys have good qualities too!



Don't hate :shady:

[LexxLuther]

Originally posted by Funshine


Hey! Attractive guys have good qualities too!



Don't hate :shady:


:thumbsup: U damn right!:thumbsup:

[LexxLuther]

i dont know about staying home to knit though....on the other hand if my girl was that tight i probably would!

[stormryder]

Just don't break up bad.....that's the way to solve everything.

You know....just walk up, say, sorry, didn't work, no hard feelings, now get the hell out of my bed.

Plenty of amicable ex-relationships have started that way

really

[LaZyCrZy]

blah thats why i dont look for people in the scene.

[punkasschikadee]

Originally posted by badkitty3804
I think my record was 4 ex's in the same club in one night....:shrug:

I need to date guys that are into like, knitting or something.

<-- 3 in one night

blah blah blah

[stormryder]

You could always consider dating someone who might hold your interest longer than a couple of weeks....


Just a thought...

[punkasschikadee]

:hmm:

ive been considering dating noone

:shrug:

[stormryder]

Well where's the fun in THAT?

I'm dating no one...and it's no fun at all...

Step 1 - Have fun

Step 2 - If you aren't having fun, then do something to have fun

Step 3 - If you've read this far you can't possibly be having fun, so stop reading and have fun.

[stormryder]

Oh....quick differentiation BTW between DATING someone....as in going out a couple times, having fun and nothing serious...and um....GOING OUT with someone....which can be fun but can be a big pain in the ass too.

dating is always good....

[Sarawithanh]

Originally posted by Anti-DieselKitty
Neither could I, but you are so destined to marry a nice jewish girl from NY and you will eat bagels and lox for the rest of your life. :wink:

mmmm bagels & cream cheese...tho, I'll admit to being jewish and HATING lox and whitefish and all the other stuff thats cold fish related.

bleh

[Anti-DieselKitty]

I hate it too. But my stepmom and Grandma Frenchie ALWAYS eat it. I like fish, but not when it's packages and used as a spread. :chilly: