A moving on question for y'all

[Jet Pilot]

How long does it take an average girl to get over her last boy friend?

Just a question that could help me in life.  Oh yea... they were only togeather for a few mounths.  So how much time are we looking at here?

[Joigazm]

It's either half the time or double the time...I can't remember. I was with mah boi for 8 months and it took me a year and a half cause I'm lame like that.

[housecat]

If they were only together for a few months it may not be that hard to get over it. The time varies for each person though there's no way to say how long.

[tigermomma]

It depends on why they broke up, who broke up with whom, how serious it was. There are too many factors to really be able to say definitely.

Probably twice as long though. The vestiges of caring for someone dont slough off easily

[NicotinePatches]

haha couple days for me... longest was...mayyybe a month?

[Arachnid]

Originally posted by Jet Pilot
How long does it take an average girl to get over her last boy friend?

Just a question that could help me in life.  Oh yea... they were only togeather for a few mounths.  So how much time are we looking at here?


there are so many things that factor into this answer...



conditions of the breakup...was he an asshole, did someone cheat...were they in love....was it just a sex thing...was it distance....etc.

cant just go by how long they were together. some people spend years together and when they realize they dont even love each other and are miserable, it takes them about a day to get over it.

others, you could meet and know for a week and never be the same. it all depends.

[brooklyn4]

it was khalil gibran who wrote "Sorrow is but a wall between two gardens"...I hate to wax philosophic,but i think it's valid in response to the question.

[badkitty3804]

Depends on the relationship.

Some you never fully get over, and I don't mean that as in 'OMG, I STILL WANT TO BE WITH HIM'. But sometimes, sometimes, you meet a person that finds their way into an itty bitty section of your heart and they just stay there.

Details...what was the relationship like? Why did it end? Did it get to 'Love' standing?

[badkitty3804]

and if the purpose of this thread is to see how long you might have to 'wait for a girl that just got out of a relationship'. I'd be weary, it's not always good to be the first guy after a relationship ends.

[Article One]

Originally posted by badkitty3804

But sometimes, sometimes, you meet a person that finds their way into an itty bitty section of your heart and they just stay there.




you know, it wasnt what he was talking about specifically, but it applies all the same. in the new LOTR, frodo has the best quote at the end...


"There are some things that time cannot mend. Some cuts run too deep, and they take hold."

[badkitty3804]

:werd:

[Muramasa]

I think it also depends on the amount of love that was there... some people take a while, especially if they loved the other person deeply. Others get over someone by immediately getting someone new. It all just depends on your level of devotion, how emotional you are, your morals, etc...

Best thing to do is just take all the time you feel you need. The hell with what 'The Norm' is, do what makes YOU feel better.:thumbsup:

[kennyloggins]

Originally posted by badkitty3804
and if the purpose of this thread is to see how long you might have to 'wait for a girl that just got out of a relationship'. I'd be weary, it's not always good to be the first guy after a relationship ends.

yeah i'm there, it sucks because she's a really good girl, just bad timing.
i would say just get to know her and be a friend. if you play it right, who knows where it will go in the future.

[A.J. Inx]

I always say this...

"How long does it take me to walk away from a relationship? Well, that all depends... How tall are the heels I'm wearing as I'm walking away?"

:D I don't expect EVERYONE to understand that but... think of it this way... Stilettos vs Steel-toed Boots

[kennyloggins]

the comparison really helps :thumbsup:

[velvetgoldmire]

Originally posted by Article One



you know, it wasnt what he was talking about specifically, but it applies all the same. in the new LOTR, frodo has the best quote at the end...


"There are some things that time cannot mend. Some cuts run too deep, and they take hold."
Everything can be traced back to Lord of the Rings.

[Article One]

even kevin bacon.

[badkitty3804]

6 degrees like whoa. :yes:

[A.J. Inx]

:no:

[badkitty3804]

"Love is a perky elf dancing a merry little jig and then suddenly he turns on you with a miniature machine gun."
--Matt Groening

Sorry, I just wanted to post that. :shrug:

[A.J. Inx]

Merry Midgets :yes:

[badkitty3804]

f'n elves.

:shadyfu:

[kennyloggins]

Originally posted by badkitty3804
"Love is a perky elf dancing a merry little jig and then suddenly he turns on you with a miniature machine gun."
--Matt Groening

that'll fly, i love the simpsons

[badkitty3804]

I think it's from one of his books..."Love is hell". Not sure though. I used to love all of his books. :yes:

[velvetgoldmire]

Originally posted by Article One
even kevin bacon.
John Rhys Davis was in Raider of the Lost Arc with Karen Allen, who was in Aniimal House with Kevin Bacon.

How oh so true

[Mandaba]

as it's been stated i think it depends on the person. in past relationships ive gotten over ones quicker than others. the past one cut me real deep and i honestly dont think ive gotten completely over it yet.him and i are good friends but sometimes people, as em said, make their way into yer heart and will always have a tiny piece of it til youve fully let them go. and even then they might still hold onto it w/o knowing.

[betseyxox]

I found I usually get over the last one as soon as I find a new one

[The Drifter]

The day you get sad because you havent thought about that person in a while is when your over that person.

[discoball]

I always thought it was double the time of the length of the relationship...but I was with this guy for 3 years and can say that I am finally over him. It took a year. It all depends on the woman.

[tigerlily]

God, I hope it's not double the time...I was with my ex for 5 years...I'll never date again:sadblue:

[housecat]

yes you will :)

[maynard]

Originally posted by badkitty3804
and if the purpose of this thread is to see how long you might have to 'wait for a girl that just got out of a relationship'. I'd be weary, it's not always good to be the first guy after a relationship ends.

:stupid:

If you're looking to date a girl that is fresh out of a relationship, then just be wary. You definitely don't want her hurts and frustrations from the guy she's still not over getting taken out on you. No matter how much you may want to be with her and are convinced it is "right", if she's not fully over that guy you're going to get burned.

Do as you wish, but be careful. And as for the original question "how long does it take the average girl to get over a guy": well, there is no answer. You're just going to have to use your best judgment.

There. There's my advice for the day.

[evey]

I believe they call those the "rebound" guy. Thank god i'm no longer one of those. :D

[Robby9969]

Its all relavent to what kind of person you are... Don't put a time limit on it... Just try and move on...

[Jet Pilot]

Originally posted by maynard


:stupid:

If you're looking to date a girl that is fresh out of a relationship, then just be wary. You definitely don't want her hurts and frustrations from the guy she's still not over getting taken out on you. No matter how much you may want to be with her and are convinced it is "right", if she's not fully over that guy you're going to get burned.

Do as you wish, but be careful. And as for the original question "how long does it take the average girl to get over a guy": well, there is no answer. You're just going to have to use your best judgment.

There. There's my advice for the day.

 

Yea i'm starting to notice stuff like that, but there is also things that say differently.

I don't know. i mean what we have going on is very confusing and i just don't want to get really close and have it all be something like "thanks for helping me get over him but i don't think things with us would work out."  Cause then i'm just waisting my time then... but i still want to be a good friend...

So the new question is... How do you know if you are just being used as a rebound or not?

[badkitty3804]

You don't know if you're a 'rebound'. Sometimes you just have to let yourself fall...heartache or on heartache.

[The Drifter]

Emily is wise :meditate:

[Mandaba]

yeah...ive been rebound before...it sucks but you get over it...and it's great when a few weeks/months later theyre ex still wouldnt take them back and come crawling back to you :afterbuzz:

[Mandaba]

and then why they come crawling back to you...you stomp on them :yes:

[The Drifter]

Then you crush their hopes with the heel of your boot.

[Mandaba]

oh yes :yes: especially if the heel is 3in+

[badkitty3804]

Sometimes rebounds turn into something more. :yes:

[Mandaba]

or maybe i'm jus bitter cuz i gave this guy 2-3 chances? :shrug:

[badkitty3804]

First and second mistakes.

[The Drifter]

I didnt wana be the one to say that.

[badkitty3804]

I don't mind being the one to say it. :shrug:

[Mandaba]

well not chances as in we dated, i gave him chances to start dating me...either way still mistakes i know, and definitely not favorite ones :sadblue:



haha i made a lame silly! *slaps knee* ok i need to get out of my house :FUBAR:

[The Drifter]

I hate dating and all the bullshit games that soround it.

[Mandaba]

i date to get to kno the person before i decide if i wanna be "committed" to them.

[The Drifter]

Thats cool an all but the games people like to play bug me to no end.

[Mandaba]

ew yes, games are a no go. i hate it when people toy with other's minds and emotions.

[The Drifter]

Its not even that its the whole motions of dating. The way you supposed not to be intrested, the 2 day phone call wait, ect

[Mandaba]

:shrug: i dont abide by those "dating rules" my current guy called me the day after we met, and i called him the day after we had our first date

[BestBoardHooker]

wow, a thread devoted to trying to figure out how long it's going to take me to get over Tim....thanks Steve! I mean, maybe we should present the question of how long it's going to take you to get over Katie...how does that one sound?

[iminxtc]

ouch.

[housecat]

Funny thing is a lot of us don't know who or what this is about until names are thrown in. You just put yourself out there by putting out names n shit. Smooth :thumbsdown:

[BestBoardHooker]

nah, I don't mind putting my name to it...hell, most people already know about me and Tim and know that we had a crappy breakup...but oh well, such is life

all in all I just thought it was funny that he was presenting this question to the board...

[Synthetikid]

it's a valid question.

[iminxtc]

crappy breakups suck

[Jungleluv09]

Originally posted by dabigfro99
I hate dating and all the bullshit games that soround it.


:werd: :plur:

[kennyloggins]

Originally posted by LilSunnyGirl
nah, I don't mind putting my name to it...hell, most people already know about me and Tim and know that we had a crappy breakup...but oh well, such is life

all in all I just thought it was funny that he was presenting this question to the board...

yeah but i'm pretty sure he's sick of seeing that topic posted all over this board... :not agaaain:

[Jet Pilot]

yea i am

[badkitty3804]

Hey guys...check out this link, this is why it's NOT a good idea to air personal business (especially relationship wise) on the board:

http://www.buzzlife.com/mssg_brd/showthread.php?s=&threadid=9232

and then...
http://www.buzzlife.com/mssg_brd/showthread.php?s=&threadid=9241

and then...
http://www.buzzlife.com/mssg_brd/showthread.php?s=&threadid=9253

[Jet Pilot]

can i get the reader's Dijest version of each thread please... and a cookie, make that two

[badkitty3804]

:shrug:

OK...

http://iyengaryogacenter.com/cookie.jpg

http://iyengaryogacenter.com/cookie.jpg

[Jet Pilot]

im not even going to ask you where you came up with that picture

[BestBoardHooker]

Originally posted by kennyloggins


yeah but i'm pretty sure he's sick of seeing that topic posted all over this board... :not agaaain:

and you know what so am I...

he's in my past and I plan on leaving him there. from now on, no more mention of him, nor he and I...what we had is over and I could honestly care less about him right now. I have way too much going on in my life to stress over some little boy who thinks it's ok to treat me like sh*t.

and I'm done! moved on!

[iminxtc]

moving on is good

[BestBoardHooker]

yes and I can finally and completely, with out doubt or hesitation say that I have moved on...can I get an applause?

[kennyloggins]

good

[BestBoardHooker]

thanks for your input Mike...not that I need your approval or anything.

[kennyloggins]

well in any event, i guess you could give a fair estimate on how long it takes to get over someone(the original question)

[BestBoardHooker]

Originally posted by kennyloggins
well in any event, i guess you could give a fair estimate on how long it takes to get over someone(the original question)

it really all depends. I can't say there's any definate amount of time that it takes to move on and sometimes, you never do. for me, it took seeing that my life was better without the person in it. it's hard for me to admit that b/c I really did care about him but sometimes you find yourself in a place where you need to step back and look at where your going and who's taking you where...I didn't want to go where he would be taking me. I need to find my own place. My own happiness....

three months of dating=month and a half to move on