Jealous friends

[EurotrashEve]

Last night I had to cut my night short w/o saying goodbyes....
b/c I found out that one of my friends for a long time is in love with me and couldn't take seeing me flirting so I missed most of POTD as a result b/c I had to leave...
:lame:
I got mad b/c we aren't friends with benefits( I don't see him like that) and he's not my bf...and he got really jealous
:slap:

[Mitaic]

My advice: give it a couple of days to cool down a little bit. Assess your own feelings. Decide what you are going to say before you meet up with him again and be firm when you communicate with him. If you have no interest in him romantically, make it clear. No need to be mean, but be honest about yourself. Once he accepts it, and if he is a good friend, he'll eventually be mature enough to still be your friend and move on.

If you do have an interest in him after all, take it slow. Romantic relationship with a friend is delicate but very rewarding if you play it right. NEVER never never become friends with benefits. I've seen it screws up so countless times.

good luck: thumbsup:

[EurotrashEve]

yeah well, I am so sure I have no feelings for this friend in the romantic way,sexual way or anything only in the I hug you and we are friends way. It's hard b/c he's been my friend for a long time and I don't want to lose him as one of those.
I hope this is a pass and go crush..
but thanks for advice

[Mitaic]

Seriously though, we men need FIRM, CLEAR answers (and we often don't get it from the ladies). If he senses there's any hope, he could very well project himself in this "relationship" in his mind, and enters his "hunter" mode. But if he smells there's no interest after a couple of sniffs, he'll move on faster than you can say "not interested."

We stupid stupid men. :D

[EurotrashEve]

I confuse alot of my guy friends apparently because, I'm hella affectionate person.

[RITMGuy]

Mitaic is completely right. Men need clear and real signs that there are no possiblities of a relationship. That why most men, well lets say most, don't go after girls already in a relationship. They know that they have no chance, but that is a clear sign. Women rarely give men such brutall honesty we ask for, so we are left to the imagination. Just tell him, straight forward, that there is no chance. If he's truly a friend, he'll get a little angry or sad, but you won't lose him.

[EurotrashEve]

yeah I kissed him on the cheek once...b/c he did something super sweet for me...does that count as leading on?

[RITMGuy]

umm........yeah. In his eyes it does.

[The Logic Theorist]

Guys will take ANYTHING as a sign that there's hope, we're stupid like that.

"Did you see the way her left ear twitched while she was yelling at me and waving the restraining order? That means she secretly wants me."

You don't have to be mean, but you do need to tell him that there's no hope AND that if he continues behaving like that he's going to lose your friendship also.

Unfortunately, I don't think I've ever seen this situation work out. Guys that my xgf just liked as friends would fall for her all the time (even while we were dating) and eventually skitz out to the point where she couldn't hang out with them anymore. If he gets a girlfriend maybe his crush will fade, you should try to find him a date ;)

[Wickity]

I don't think that's really true... It *could* be, but it's alright to kiss a guy on the cheek.. Jeez.. The problem is, when I'm interested in a girl, it *is* hard to figure out if she's just being friendly, or is into me.. Sooner or later, you either have to say something and talk it out, or just let it go away.

I suggest you just talk with him about it, and don't worry yourself so much about leading people on. Really, no matter what you do, someone is going to see it as a signal.

[RITMGuy]

It's all in perception, he will see most anything you do as a possible sign. Pretty much until he is told otherwise. Honesty works quite well.

[EurotrashEve]

good advice(phil is always full of good advice)....the only thing is I only hang out with alot of guys, not alot of females(most of the fem's I run with aren't into guys) ..too bad he's not bi then that would work out. and too bad my sister is only 13..chica looks like me alot..identical minus the curves and age diff. .....he will have to wait 5 years until she's legal.

[The Logic Theorist]

That is the scariest statement I have ever seen on the buzz board.

[EurotrashEve]

Originally posted by logictheorist
That is the scariest statement I have ever seen on the buzz board.
What's scary?

[Jungleluv09]

You left POTD because someone else couldn't bare to see you having fun?

:lame:

With all due respect. Live your own life, don't let someone make your own life decisions for you...

[EurotrashEve]

oh the sister thing and the fact there's another me running around..I already gave her a club kid name and everything...and all my guy friends are all like she's cute and I'm all protectively saying "fuck off" that part is disturbing

[EurotrashEve]

Originally posted by Jungleluv09
You left POTD because someone else couldn't bare to see you having fun?

:lame:

With all due respect. Live your own life, don't let someone make your own life decisions for you...
Yeah, unfortunately w/ my car getting major stuff done to it in the bodyshop...they were my ride there and stuff...I was hella pissed ..why are we leaving at 2? I just started my night
I was pissed before cuz I had to wait for my friends to get ready and 2 of em' didn't even do the theme..and we missed open bar..which was a bad and good thing b/c I was done for the night by 1:residentbrit:

[Wickity]

Actually Eve, *I* love you..

[Muramasa]

:liar:

That's not what you told me!!
:ontome:

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[punkasschikadee]

i can run interference :eddie: or at least distract someone

[tranKwilized]

:touchmymonkey:

:wave:

[EurotrashEve]

yeah I have a crush on tranquillz..cuz he looks like matthew lilliard...and that dude is hotter than a dancing habanero in hell.
I talked to my friend and everything is cool now I basically told him..I don't want to hurt you but I'm not interested + I wouldn't want to jeopardize a good friendship

[tranKwilized]

:haha:

Your not too bad yourself :wink: :snog:

Sorry I got you in trouble :D

[EurotrashEve]

No darling you didn't get me in trouble with my platonic friend
:affection:

[EurotrashEve]

and I guess he wanted me to grab his ass too?

[tranKwilized]

:shrug:

Don't be hatin!

[badkitty3804]

Originally posted by EurotrashEve
and I guess he wanted me to grab his ass too?

Watch out for the ass grabbing...apparently security frowns upon it. :afterbuzz:

[tranKwilized]

:haha:

[EurotrashEve]

not when it's done by a hot chick

[badkitty3804]

:puppydog:

I got a :nono:

[tranKwilized]

Well, you two just come over here tonight and we'll have a private ass grabbing session :D

:3some:

[Jungleluv09]

You lost me... :shrug: I'm confused :confused:

[badkitty3804]

Originally posted by tranKwilized
Well, you too just come over here tonight and we'll have a private ass grabbing session :D

:3some:
:whoa:

Originally posted by Jungleluv09
You lost me... :shrug: I'm confused :confused:

Who?

[Muramasa]

:lameflirt:

[tranKwilized]

:haha:

Reprecussions from last night, my friend :D

[Muramasa]

Heh.. I've just been dying for an excuse to properly use that smiley.:D

[tranKwilized]

:haha:

Did you come out last night man?

[Muramasa]

Nope, I was sitting at home, posting. I wish I could have.:sadblue:

Damn this cold, mountainous prison! Damn it to hell!:ranton:

[EurotrashEve]

yeah last night was fun minus the jealous friend..fuck him I had fun...with all the affection and ass grabbing antics of last night

[Jungleluv09]

No, nothing about the ass grabbin, about leaving POTD because off some jealous guy, or was it your ride had to leave??? I dunno, trying to figure out this post is like trying to make sense out a trip! :shrug:

[EurotrashEve]

the jealous friend was my ride home and he was all like ...we are leaving now!!!!!after he saw some heavy flirting on my part..that's the deal.

[The Drifter]

Hi eve, it was nice flirting, opps I mean meeting you on fri.

[Mandaba]

Originally posted by tranKwilized
:touchmymonkey:

:wave:



BWA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA

[iminxtc]

jealous friends can do the following...give up all hope. get a fucking life....suck a fat cock, and simply stop wasting their time

[pojimoko]

it sounds kind of hard to believe...

did he actually say he was jealous?

maybe he didn't like the music or had the flu?

[numbskull]

jealous friend, eh?
you gotta handle that just right. i advise grabbing and making out with every willing party except for him, as close to him as possible. that should make things clear.

[A.J. Inx]

Eve. I love you. Seriously... You rock. You're one of my most FAVE party kids, EVER.

Having said that... Don't be lame. Drop the drama on it's fat, harry ass where it belongs...

You're better than all of that. You know it. I know it. Everyone loves you for it.

Peace. :D

[EurotrashEve]

Originally posted by dabigfro99
Hi eve, it was nice flirting, opps I mean meeting you on fri.
Darling, I didn't know you were flirting..then again I am oblivious...

[EurotrashEve]

Originally posted by A.J. Inx
Eve. I love you. Seriously... You rock. You're one of my most FAVE party kids, EVER.

Having said that... Don't be lame. Drop the drama on it's fat, harry ass where it belongs...

You're better than all of that. You know it. I know it. Everyone loves you for it.

Peace. :D
and you know your my partner in crime sweetie
my love for you is whoa

[punkasschikadee]

it was good meeting you :wave: do you remember? lol

[tranKwilized]

Just woke up from a nap. What's going on in here?

[EurotrashEve]

yes sweetie..I was drunk like donatella versace but..I definitely remember you...all I have to say is teh hot.

[EurotrashEve]

Originally posted by tranKwilized
Just woke up from a nap. What's going on in here?
hey darling..Yay sexy pants finally woke up(excuse the drunkness)
I am as drunk as donatella versace right now

[tranKwilized]

Damn, I'll be off to work soon. No drinking for me :no:

[punkasschikadee]

Originally posted by EurotrashEve
yes sweetie..I was drunk like donatella versace but..I definitely remember you...all I have to say is teh hot.

:affection: back at ya momma

[EurotrashEve]

yeah I was doing the drunken catwalk on friday

[punkasschikadee]

meow

[tranKwilized]

:tarvis:

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[EurotrashEve]

Omg me and you darling...trouble

[Wickity]

Originally posted by tranKwilized
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:wtf:

[tranKwilized]

Originally posted by Wickity


:wtf:

Never you mind..  never you mind..

 

:neener:

 

Discount like woah :D

[Robby9969]

Originally posted by Mitaic
My advice: give it a couple of days to cool down a little bit. Assess your own feelings. Decide what you are going to say before you meet up with him again and be firm when you communicate with him. If you have no interest in him romantically, make it clear. No need to be mean, but be honest about yourself. Once he accepts it, and if he is a good friend, he'll eventually be mature enough to still be your friend and move on.

If you do have an interest in him after all, take it slow. Romantic relationship with a friend is delicate but very rewarding if you play it right. NEVER never never become friends with benefits. I've seen it screws up so countless times.

good luck: thumbsup:


The worst is friends with benefits after a failed relationship... I stopped that about a month ago with my X. We stopped seeing eachother last Jan, and had been sleeping together off and on since then... It's a really tough situation that you have been put in, but such is life...

[MaryAnarchy]

Originally posted by logictheorist
"Did you see the way her left ear twitched while she was yelling at me and waving the restraining order? That means she secretly wants me."



best...thing i read all day

:hifive:


:afterbuzz::afterbuzz::afterbuzz::afterbuzz:

[GiveMeFunkyBeats]

shut up with the drama
and u left potd b/c of this...stop being melodramatic and lame and get a grip on reality

[MaryAnarchy]

doh always gets right to the point :D

[EurotrashEve]

Originally posted by drumnbassva
shut up with the drama
and u left potd b/c of this...stop being melodramatic and lame and get a grip on reality

Anyway, if you payed attention to my responses you'd know it was settled by saturday night and everything is okay..and didn't lose a friend over this..+ he was my ride home so I kinda had to go where he went or be left behind...and you don't know me DNB Va so don't ever judge me .(refer back to page 3- "talked to my friend everything is settled")

- I live in reality bitch