Psycho Ex's!!!!!!!!

[Julierose]

gawd damn! I have this ex who really needs some counceling. No, really. For example, about a year after we broke up, his mom called me and asked me to meet them in Atlantic City so we could 'talk' and 'see if there [was] any chance for the two of [us] to get back together.' I refused to go and the two of them continued to call me at 3 hour intervals for the next 48 hours straight. Well, i didnt talk to him for about a year after that and finally decided that it would be okay to talk to him via IM and e-mail only. sadly i think I may have made a huge mistake in talking to him again. This is the most recent e-mail from him. It came after one day of me ignoring his IMs because I didnt want to talk about the topic he wouldnt drop (It was a sexual matter and hence none of his damn business...)


apparently now i'm blocked, [from my AIM list] if your going to still talk to me via email cool, don't bother reading on.

its been nice knowing you all this time. i don't think, for better or worse i'll ever forget you. equally its been a wild strange ride, no sick joke intended. i really hope you enjoy your new life, and i'll be around if you ever need my ass.
later.
p.s. i'm still never getting laid.
p.p.s think i'd make it through that long of a text without even one crack?
p.p.p.s curious if you remember me saying that..... always.


WTF!!! Does anyone else have these sort of problems with ex's or am I the only unfortunate fuck who has to deal with this shit

EDIT: text color

[elad]

:siihp:

[switchstance]

Quit stringing him along and just tell him to fuck off already! JEEZ.

If you don't want him in your life, quit talking to him. The poor boy obviously loves you, so any contact is going to give him the little shred of reassurance he needs to keep trying.

[Julierose]

thanks elad... helpful, as always

[housecat]

Here's what you do. Forget his name. Lose his number, email, IM all of it.

You see it pop up in an email click delete. Block him IM... whatever. DOO EET!

[housecat]

Originally posted by switchstance
Quit stringing him along and just tell him to fuck off already! JEEZ.

If you don't want him in your life, quit talking to him. The poor boy obviously loves you, so any contact is going to give him the little shred of reassurance he needs to keep trying.
:bigfatwerd:

[Julierose]

I'm not trying to string the kid along.. I have a boyfriend who I have lived with for almost 3 years and he knows that, he also knows that i am not going to leave my b/f for him. We have been friends for 7 years (we dated for 1 and 1/2 of them) I didnt realy want to just drop him as my friend but I dont think I have much of a choice at this point

[Julierose]

and i think 'fuck off' is a little strong...

[switchstance]

You crossed the line and dated. You have to cutoff contact until enough time passes that he either forgets about you or finds someone "better" (from his perspective).

That's the way it goes...

[housecat]

He's not really your friend if he's putting you through this. Drop him.


That may seem harsh but you have to be sometimes.

[Shawn_E]

No you aren't alone trust me, you want to know what I went through with my first love?

I'll draw you the cliff notes version-

We were both in the army, she came to my unit so I was there longer than her. She's mexican from los angeles, she's beautiful looks just like salma heyek.

1. She cheated on me numerous times.
2. We went through 2 abortions that I will never know if it was in fact my child or not :sadblue:
3. She tried to stab me.
4 she broke the finger of a girl she thought I cheated on her with.
5. I caught her with a guy who hid in the bathroom.
6. She slashed the tires on my brand new car at the time back then, two days after I got it, had it sitting on bricks until she agreed to pay for the tires during the winter...

The list goes on, for the full unprecendented story, we'll have to meet and chat about it. But it was one crazy ride, but you know what she stills emails me and ask me to visit her in los angeles b/c she misses me and hasn't been able to love anyone since me and we broke up in 2000...

Talk about crazy.

[Dizardak]

i dont understand these guys that try and get girls through pity..."ps i'm still not getting laid" - what does he except to get from this, oh well i feel sorry for you so i'll sleep with u again - sounds like a huge :loser: to me - plus his mom calling you is just plain absurd, kid can't even handle his own bizness

[Julierose]

so shawn, is the cereal invite still good? :afterbuzz:

[Shawn_E]

werd he's a :tool:

[housecat]

Originally posted by Shawn_E
No you aren't alone trust me, you want to know what I went through with my first love?

I'll draw you the cliff notes version-

We were both in the army, she came to my unit so I was there longer than her. She's mexican from los angeles, she's beautiful looks just like salma heyek.

1. She cheated on me numerous times.
2. We went through 2 abortions that I will never know if it was in fact my child or not :sadblue:
3. She tried to stab me.
4 she broke the finger of a girl she thought I cheated on her with.
5. I caught her with a guy who hid in the bathroom.
6. She slashed the tires on my brand new car at the time back then, two days after I got it, had it sitting on bricks until she agreed to pay for the tires during the winter...

The list goes on, for the full unprecendented story, we'll have to meet and chat about it. But it was one crazy ride, but you know what she stills emails me and ask me to visit her in los angeles b/c she misses me and hasn't been able to love anyone since me and we broke up in 2000...

Talk about crazy.
Damn dude.

[Shawn_E]

Originally posted by Julierose
so shawn, is the cereal invite still good? :afterbuzz:

hehe sure. I am broke at the moment so we may have to wait till friday lol. tee hee.

[Biodigit]

I agree with the rest of the posters. Just give it a rest. Could you also change the color red to something else. It very straining on the eye.

[Julierose]

AHHHHH!!!! as if he knew I was talking about him, he jsut IMed me!!! what do I say?

[Shawn_E]

Originally posted by housecat

Damn dude.

And that's not even the tip of the ice berg, the crazy people we'll stick with cuz we think we're in love, and the sad part is I kept taking her back till one day I reached the breaking point, thank god for breaking points. lol.

[bboyneko]

Originally posted by switchstance
Quit stringing him along and just tell him to fuck off already! JEEZ.

If you don't want him in your life, quit talking to him. The poor boy obviously loves you, so any contact is going to give him the little shred of reassurance he needs to keep trying.

at this point, that is NOT love or even close to it. It's about as close to love as Dennis Rodman is to Jesus.

[Julierose]

Originally posted by Biodigit
I agree with the rest of the posters. Just give it a rest. Could you also change the color red to something else. It very straining on the eye.

Is sea green better?

[elad]

i reiterate: :siihp:

be all like "hey baby, wanna come over for a nice blah blah :tarvis:..."

anden turn the lights off and all sneakishly <img src="http://www.buzzlife.com/mssg_brd/images/smilies/siihp.gif" width="200">

somethin, i dunno what, whatever stickable will surely work. he wont be callin back anytime soon. :thumbsup:

[tigermomma]

I cannot imagine getting psycho with any ex.
I just drop it and walk away. However, as I have recently found out, that may not be the best way of doing things.

The father of my kids was a psycho stalker after I left him. But considering his history, it wasnt very surprising.

These kind of situations can turn dangerous though. Just be careful how you word certain things....guys like this can snap. If you cut off communication, and he still pesters you, keep a log off the phone calls, emails, IM's...print them, put them in a file. That way if something happens, and you need to get a P.O., you can....easily.

[switchstance]

Originally posted by Julierose
AHHHHH!!!! as if he knew I was talking about him, he jsut IMed me!!! what do I say?

<font size=+4>ARE YOU RETARDED? BLOCK HIM!</font>

:lame:

[Fetterbug]

:ohshit:

[Julierose]

the kid is both bipolar and schitzoprenic (didnt find this out till long after we dated) I dont wanna do anything that will drive him over the edge...

[tigermomma]

Originally posted by Julierose
AHHHHH!!!! as if he knew I was talking about him, he jsut IMed me!!! what do I say?

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Tell him you think it would be better if you didnt talk anymore.

Then print the convo when either of you logs off.

I'm telling you...paper trails with crazy people is :thumbsup:

[bkidz]

No prob like that to speak of. You've got to tell'em straight up "no pussy for you!!!!"

[Julierose]

and btw, i'm not retarded, but thanks for asking.

[bboyneko]

stop wasting another second of your life and block him and cease all communications. its not on you anymore, if he shoots himself too bad, its not your fault he wulda shot himself over any other stupid thing.

[switchstance]

:haha:

The truth hurts.

[tigermomma]

I would worry more about what he could do to her :sadblue:

[Julierose]

well, i just kinda ignored the IM from a few seconds ago and it seemed to work for now. You're probably right that he would do something like that if it were about me or about something else but I would rather if it werent about me, i dont think i could live with that on my concience.

[The Drifter]

Originally posted by Julierose
I dont wanna do anything that will drive him over the edge...


It sounds like he already jumped off the edge a while ago. Just my .02

[Julierose]

Originally posted by tigermomma
I would worry more about what he could do to her :sadblue:

well, he live in NE Pennsylvania, he does not have my new MD phone # or address, few of my friends up there do and they are all under strict instructions not to share it with anyone. My # is also unlisted so I hope that is enough...

[housecat]

Originally posted by bboyneko
stop wasting another second of your life and block him and cease all communications. its not on you anymore, if he shoots himself too bad, its not your fault he wulda shot himself over any other stupid thing.
:werd: He has issues but that's not your problem if anything does happen to him it's not your fault he obviously needs some therapy/meds/what have you and you are not a psychiatrist.

CUT OFF ALL TIES AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!!

Straight up.

[bboyneko]

Originally posted by Julierose
well, i just kinda ignored the IM from a few seconds ago and it seemed to work for now. You're probably right that he would do something like that if it were about me or about something else but I would rather if it werent about me, i dont think i could live with that on my concience.

It would be more technically your fault if you got involved again in any way, stay away and let him heal..you , wether you realize it or not, are causing him harm. Staying away will help him get over you, and its not even you hes obsessed about anymore but the idea of you..your not a person anymore but an unattainable thing.

[housecat]

:stupid:

[Julierose]

See i thought about that too, that i may be causeing more harm than good but its so hard to tell with him.

HouseCat- I think he is seeing a therapist and on meds but i can never be too sure if he is taking them or not...

[housecat]

Well at least he is doing that it makes a world of difference :)

Whatever you do don't feel guilty if you don't talk to him you're doing more good than harm by not.

[Julierose]

I think i should say something to him though before i just disappear, dont you? Do you think i should just 'fade away' or should i share some parting words before i do?

[housecat]

Sure. Tell him you're not going to be in contact with him anymore and then don't be.

In all honesty I think things will be better once he's moved on and met someone else that seems to be the case usually anyway.

[Julierose]

So, anybody wanna date a psycho guy from PA who looks like Jason Mewes?

[Implicit]

Too bad http://www.psychoexgirlfriend.com/ is down

[iminxtc]

Originally posted by Julierose
and btw, i'm not retarded, but thanks for asking.

nothing wrong with being retarded! :specialed:

[Julierose]

never said there was