a much needed break?

[missa bear]

Too much time on one's hands tends to lead to trouble, does it not? SO, what to do in the time between a relationship and being ready to be involved with someone? It seems that everytime I get comfortable being alone, the people around me get uncomfortable with my relationship status... Then I end up getting pushed... Sometimes, it works out and I have a blast... but most of the time, I end up breaking somebody's heart... How do I get my point across to my buds and those chasing after me that I need time? Or, are they right? Am I too dangerous to be without a better half?

[Valencia Styles]

well u r the dangerous type and u do need someone to hold u back from some things girlie, but if u feel that u can't commit fully then ur right... u need a break. just tell the people that u perceive to be pushing u exactly how u feel... they'll understand :smooch:

[iminxtc]

maybe so, but really look into yourself and make that decision. i've been in a relationship off and on for a while now and i always question my readiness to really commit. sometimes i really enjoy just being with someone caring and sweet that doesnt want anything more...but people do ge their feeling hurt. Good luck :smooch:

[LadyJ]

You need to be totally happy and mentally and emotionally stable by yourself before you even try to bring someone else into the picture.

[Wickity]

Totally happy?

[badkitty3804]

:werd:

[DJDiversty]

Just be honest....If you need time tell someone that, if they dont give it to you then announce it again...i think it goes back to the old point that honesty and being open make the best relationships...be open about you feel and dont lie about it and you'll be fine...if you dont want a relationship and you say that...but he gets upset cuz he wont date you, well then his fault you said you didn't want a relationship!

[missa bear]

you know, it's funny- the more honest I am with people, the more they don't want to hear what I have to say... *sighs* another case of selective hearing loss and a broken heart that should never have been...

[iminxtc]

sorry your going through this. but if they dont wanna hear then F them. you can do better.

[MaryAnarchy]

i wish people were chasing after me.
just kidding

so basically you're saying "how do i tell poeple that i just want to be single and left alone"

tell them. be direct. right to the point. that way you're not stringing them along.

[MaryAnarchy]

once upon a time i was scared to get in a relationship

then i met a wonderful person who made me realize being single may be fun because of all that you can flirt with and all the positive attention you may get, but being with someone is never lonely. loving someone and having them love you in return is so wonderful.

don't mind me.

[dj intreeg]

Ms. Anarchy,
Envy is an emotion I don't often feel. But then again when your fiancee breaks up with you, you're prone to almost anything. :P Glad someone is happy!

[Bunny]

Originally posted by MaryAnarchy
once upon a time i was scared to get in a relationship

then i met a wonderful person who made me realize being single may be fun because of all that you can flirt with and all the positive attention you may get, but being with someone is never lonely. loving someone and having them love you in return is so wonderful.

don't mind me.

You are very lucky. But, not everyone is. Even when someone is in a relationship that they (at the time) think is great, but later on you realize that this was wrong or I should have done this instead. Of course these ideas usually come when the relationship is over.

[Bunny]

I must add my apology. I am just venting right now. Kind of in a bad situation myself. I am usually not this negative. Really.

[iminxtc]

when its to late.....you haft to thinnk more before getting involved.

[Valencia Styles]

omg south park avatars everywhere!!!!

[iminxtc]

im makin one when i get home!

[Valencia Styles]

i bet it's gonna be sexxxxie! hahaha

[MaryAnarchy]

Originally posted by ElectrikRapture
Ms. Anarchy,
Envy is an emotion I don't often feel. But then again when your fiancee breaks up with you, you're prone to almost anything. :P Glad someone is happy!

oh, i have my stories as well.

i got cheated on by my boyfrien dof 2 years once...


and back in the day i was pregnant and my boyfriend/fiance at the time was out getting blowjobs and banging all kinds of girls.

i was very bitter for a long time.

but after a few years you can open yourself up again i think.

[n-root]

:kapluto: is the answer :meditate:

[Valencia Styles]

:wave: hi roman!!!

[missa bear]

The worst part about all of this is that somebody somewhere is getting hurt... Personal issue with me- I hate being the reason (eventhough technically I am not) that someone isn't happy...
Right now, it's nice to be able to focus on my friends... The schedule juggling isn't anything like it was a couple months back. There is no guilt-tripping... The only thing I miss is the physical contact... But I am getting that from the people closest to me, so what do I need a boyfriend or a girlfriend for? Thanks for the support... I need it, right about now...

[punkasschikadee]

follow your heart and do whatever you want

dont let weakness become your actions

[madeofwires]

if you need a break, you need a break. you can't be with someone if you're in a state where you need some time to yourself, it really doesn't work out, and like you said, can break hearts. breaks are good def.

[PizzaTheSlut]

get em missa bear get em. lukie gots ya back. much love to you

[Dizardak]

props to you PizzaTheSlut, first board name i've seen in awhile that str8 up made me laugh :D

[missa bear]

Lukie... you would support me in my endeavor to destroy humanity by breaking heartts, now would you? *evil grin* Naw... I am not that bad, am I???

[Yakko Red]

Originally posted by missa bear
Too much time on one's hands tends to lead to trouble, does it not? SO, what to do in the time between a relationship and being ready to be involved with someone? It seems that everytime I get comfortable being alone, the people around me get uncomfortable with my relationship status... Then I end up getting pushed... Sometimes, it works out and I have a blast... but most of the time, I end up breaking somebody's heart... How do I get my point across to my buds and those chasing after me that I need time? Or, are they right? Am I too dangerous to be without a better half?

People get uncomfortable with your relationship status? Tell those people to get lives, as they don't need to worry so much about what you do with your life. You shouldn't let yourself get pushed into any situation as well.

When people don't understand that you need time, this is what you say..

"I'm a hustler baby, I just want you to know, it's not where I've been, or where i'm about to go..."

That should explain everything.

[MaryAnarchy]

yeah tell everyone to go stuff it.
don't do anything till you're ready.
and stuff.


basically i just wanted to use this post as a way to announce to the world that...

my head is pounding.

[MLikens]

Well i belive that you should always follow your heart..... if you like this person u should persew them and not worry what the other half thinks. If your friends cant accept that you dont want to be single than your friends really dont care about you or your feelings.... Just go for it girl

[phatphlava]

know who you are and know what you like. there's a time in life for everything... if you know you want a long term relationship but all you're looking for is being on your own and having fun and meeting a lot of ppl, then do it, when the time is right, things will fall into place. don't hold onto something just cause you think it's right. you have to know it. that's my two cents.

[madeofwires]

:werd:

[missa bear]

why can't all of my friends be as supportive as you guys, huh?

[Shawn_E]

Originally posted by missa bear
Too much time on one's hands tends to lead to trouble, does it not? SO, what to do in the time between a relationship and being ready to be involved with someone? It seems that everytime I get comfortable being alone, the people around me get uncomfortable with my relationship status... Then I end up getting pushed... Sometimes, it works out and I have a blast... but most of the time, I end up breaking somebody's heart... How do I get my point across to my buds and those chasing after me that I need time? Or, are they right? Am I too dangerous to be without a better half?


You leave em on the back burner like ya did me PUNK! :sadblue: :skull:

[missa bear]

what? shawn??? I am sooo confused!!!

[PizzaTheSlut]

i love you no matter missa! send me love!

[El Magnifico]

Booty-call time?

[MaryAnarchy]

*insert pron music*

[El Magnifico]

Sitting in my crib col' maxin'
Thinking about a freak I was waxin'
Phat ole booty yeah she got it goin on
That's what made me wanna write this song...
...I think I got a booty call!